So, lately I've been experiencing an issue with receiving spam reports for thanking people for llamas/favorites. These instances were due to mistakes on my part for not noticing the rule on their page. I only found out about them after the report was already made and I never had a chance to apologize or explain that it was a mistake. They enforced their page rules as they saw fit. I have my own set of rules on my profile and when they are not adhered to, I inform that individual. I was expecting that some responses would be negative while others positive. Today, I experienced extremes of both. One was very respectful and understanding of the issue. We discussed the matter, came to the understanding that it was just a mistake and went our separate ways on a positive note. The other was incredibly rude and insulting. They even went as far as to have some of their friends jump in the middle of the matter when it was none of their business.
I adhered to the rules on their pages, I did not thank them for the llama as they requested. However, I did inform them of my rules. The polite one, was able to relate because they had a similar problem with unwanted "thanks". I respected their rules, they respected mine and all was good. The rude one, on the other hand, didn't seem to understand the concept of mutual respect. They directed multiple insults towards me, stated that I can't enforce my rules because I don't own the site, then blocked me from being able to respond. I could care less that they blocked me. Their actions tell me they're a coward and likely, a troll. I did end up blocking them and their friends that decided to send their own rude comments.
I want to make something perfectly clear, this is my profile and I will do what I please with it. It is no different than anyone else on this site, as long as they are within the guidelines of DA they can do what they wish with their profile. The one thing that will be required on my profile is mutual respect. If you can't take the time to review and follow my rules on my profile, don't expect me to do it for you. It is that simple. If it was a mistake, just say so. I'm not heartless or unforgiving. I understand that mistakes will happen. However, I will not tolerate people insulting me or telling me what I can or can not do on my own page.
On that note, I may make some changes to my profile to make things simpler, more organized and to eliminate possible future issues. I'm not certain of what changes I'll make just yet, I have many things to consider. Some suggestions have been to periodically post group thanks in a journal or on my profile. Another suggestion is to update my profile with a "pre-thank you" for future favs, llamas, ect. One other suggestion is to turn off my badge notifications. Personally, I like giving thanks to each person. To me, I'm acknowledging the individual rather than ignoring them or just grouping them up with everyone else. However, it seems that doing this is causing more problems than it's worth. I'll have to weigh the pros and cons of each option before coming to a decision. I may put up a few polls to help get insight from others to help in making those decisions. I'm pretty torn about what to do because I want people who visit my page feel like they're not just a number but, it seems that it may be the only way to prevent confrontation.
If you have other suggestions that may help to resolve this issue, please feel free to either send me a note or leave a comment on this journal. All help is greatly appreciated!
Sincerely,
Dizzi